I’ve actually gone through times where I feel like me and my best friend might have grown apart for good. Like, we just got so far off into our own worlds that it felt we might never find common ground again. And what did I do? I didn’t trip out over it. I let her do her and I reached out to her when I needed her. Furthermore, I was there for her when she did the same. Somehow this unspoken bond we had kept bringing us back together at the most pivotal times which helped us realize that sometimes you have to grow apart to grow together…. the best part about that is finding solace in the fact that since she had my back in the first place when it was easy/convenient, she’s ALWAYS going to have my back when times get a little tougher. Conversely, I watched my best friend/boyfriend move 3,000 miles and not be there when I needed him. Two totally different experiences/outcomes but both equally amazing opportunities to learn & grow.
I say that to say, if there comes a time when you realize they don’t really have your back, then be grateful that you were given the chance to find that out…. cus who wants to waste their time caring about someone who doesn’t care about them? I think opportunities like these are a blessing, because they let you find out how strong your friendship really is and it helps build the foundation for 8-80 more years of friendship with that person.
But, stay strong and just keep loving them. That’s all you really can do.